Tanos's weblog http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/all/ The IC RSS Gadget webmaster@informedconsent.co.uk 360 Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:37:27 GMT Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:37:27 GMT http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179990/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179990/ Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:37:27 GMT I've started a thread about having another O&P Open in early April, this time in London. The O&P Open in Manchester last weekend worked out very well! http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179985/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179985/ Mon, 08 Mar 2010 20:05:00 GMT We had the first O&P Open on Saturday for people interested in D/s-M/s-O&P relationships, and it turned out to be a great afternoon and evening. In all, 21 people were there for the round-table discussion part, and 15 for the dinner afterwards.... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179951/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179951/ Tue, 02 Mar 2010 14:18:51 GMT Just wonderful (watch it in HD and with the sound on, if you can.) http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179922/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179922/ Wed, 24 Feb 2010 00:51:54 GMT I collared mia tonight, and I'm very proud to have her wearing my "ironwork" now :) http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179918/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179918/ Tue, 23 Feb 2010 01:28:15 GMT Today I updated the thread about the O&P meeting in Manchester on the 6th of March, with a photograph to help find the venue and some directions. Belasarius has now also started a thread with suggestions for discussion topics for the open round table part of the afternoon. Finally mia has begun a thread about names for this type of meeting: not just a munch but not as formal sounding as "meeting" :) http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179874/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179874/ Sun, 14 Feb 2010 16:00:58 GMT There will be an informal meeting for people interested in O&P, D/s or M/s relationships on Saturday 6th March 2010 in central Manchester. The meeting will be from 1pm to 5pm, with a round-table discussion about suggested topics starting at 2pm.... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179849/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179849/ Sun, 07 Feb 2010 12:12:30 GMT I've posted this to the O&P group on Informed Consent:... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179843/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179843/ Fri, 05 Feb 2010 21:33:04 GMT I started writing about Internal Enslavement ("IE") in 1999, first calling it "Internal Slave Development" and then adopting the more accurate "Internal Enslavement" name in August of 2000. Now that most of my writing efforts are going into O&P (Ownership & Possession), this is a good time to clarify how IE fits into this new framework.... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179839/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179839/ Thu, 04 Feb 2010 22:12:42 GMT I'm reading Raven and Joshua's questions and answers book, and there's a great line in a section about control: "I can't carpet the world, but I've put down a lot of throw rugs."... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179819/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179819/ Sat, 30 Jan 2010 19:45:59 GMT I had three trips this month, and managed to get a lot further with the North Ride (ie track) that I've been clearing. One or two more days and the full length will be open to the sky. Once this is done people will be able to go for circular walks around at least that part of the site without having to fight their way through the dense undergrowth which comes back in spring. ... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179811/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179811/ Thu, 28 Jan 2010 23:42:26 GMT Tonight I started a page listing BDSM suppliers that I've made purchases from over the years and are prepared to recommend. This really is a case of "put your money where your mouth is", rather than the comprehensive lists of vendors you see on sites like IC or TSR. http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179803/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179803/ Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:17:37 GMT I've had a copy of Jose Jimenez Aranda's painting of a naked slave girl (sat on a rug surrounded by the feet of buyers) on my site since about 2003. I made a stab at the inscription she bears, and got as far as "Rose" ("Rhodon") and "18 (years)" ("IH"), but I've now got an official version.... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179802/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179802/ Tue, 26 Jan 2010 20:31:00 GMT New thread on the O&P group on IC: "I think it's taken for granted that the best things about dominants and owners tend to be transferable from one relationship to another: skills, experience, self-awareness and self-acceptance of one's desires and right to receive service etc. However, what about the submissives' side of things?" http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179799/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179799/ Mon, 25 Jan 2010 20:35:03 GMT TheFalconer started a training thread on the O&P group on IC. It's generated some good replies already :) http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179770/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179770/ Sun, 17 Jan 2010 21:04:21 GMT The O&P group on Informed Consent has gone past 100 subscribers and 28 topics. It's now become the busiest of the three O&P forums ... and remember you don't need to be resident in the UK to use IC :) http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179765/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179765/ Sat, 16 Jan 2010 19:41:13 GMT I'm now in the early stages of a D/s relationship with mia, who started using Informed Consent a couple of years ago but registered on The Slave Register as 000-578-742 way back in 2001. ... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179720/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179720/ Tue, 05 Jan 2010 17:27:32 GMT A couple of years ago I reviewed Peter Masters' previous title, "The Control Book", and "The Curious Human Phenomenon" is very much in the same vein. It doesn't try to teach you BDSM techniques, but instead tries to explain some of the reasons behind elements of BDSM. Masters summarises this by saying BDSM has an "abundance of 'how'" but a "scarcity of 'why'".... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179696/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179696/ Sat, 02 Jan 2010 01:18:32 GMT The Wiki on TSR acquired many good articles about D/s and M/s subjects in 2007 and 2008, but had only a handful of updates during 2009. It's now been rebranded as the O&P Wiki to give it more focus, and it appears on the O&P website itself now too. In the last week, I've updated a great many of the articles to make it more consistent, and include more O&P topics and links to O&P blog posts. http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179694/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179694/ Fri, 01 Jan 2010 14:26:34 GMT One of the things that's attractive about O&P relationships is the clarity about where you stand and who's in charge. I've started a thread on the O&P group on IC asking about dealing with the transitions involved in moving from meeting as equals all the way to the dominant being in possession of the submissive. A lot of these stages are questions of consent: fundamentally, the sub consenting to allow the dom to do XYZ whenever they want, from then on.... http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179633/ http://www.tanos.org.uk/weblog/179633/ Fri, 11 Dec 2009 23:01:20 GMT The word "training" is used in different ways in O&P relationships (or M/s, D/s etc): I think there's a divide between "training someone up", as an apprentice carpenter might be trained up and then qualify; and ongoing training, as sportsmen talk about when they've been ill and not able to "keep up with their training"....