Those in between stages

Posted by Tanos on Fri 1 Jan 10, 2:26 PM

Tags: o_and_p

One of the things that's attractive about O&P relationships is the clarity about where you stand and who's in charge. I've started a thread on the O&P group on IC asking about dealing with the transitions involved in moving from meeting as equals all the way to the dominant being in possession of the submissive. A lot of these stages are questions of consent: fundamentally, the sub consenting to allow the dom to do XYZ whenever they want, from then on.

But how do you deal with all this? What's worked, what hasn't? Do you talk about it as it happens, or just feel your way through? Or do you dive in with some kind of blanket consent very early? Hopefully we'll get some interesting responses on the thread.