Begging

Posted by Tanos on Wed 25 Mar 09, 10:06 PM

Tags: masterslave

There was a thread on IC about begging, and whether it's just saying "please" lots of times. I've copied my reply here so it doesn't just sink into the archives.

Begging is a really submissive way of asking for something. It acknowledges that the dominant has all the choice about whether to say yes or no. But it's not just that, because it involves using cues that imply a difference in status and make the submissive appear vulnerable (vulnerable to the reply "no" about something they obviously really want in particular.) Those cues seem to connect to some subconscious part of humans being begged to, whether the response is mercy or just a sadistic smile.

Soooooo, all this implies that "Begging 101" should involve:

• Say what it is you're asking for. This is what it's all about.
• Say why it's important to you. This makes your vulnerability about this more significant.
• Say that it's entirely up to the dominant whether you get it.
• Say "please". A lot. That says lack of status (very polite) and that the dominant has all the choice ("please" is short for "if it pleases you".)
• Use the dominant's form of address (or name, as appropriate) to help stress the status differential.
• Use any available physical way of stressing the status differential (kneeling, hands clasped, tears etc.)
• Don't do anything resembling negotiation. You're not striking a bargain. You're making it look like the dominant has all the power. They'll like that
• Keep doing all that, in some kind of slightly random, Jazz improvisation sort of order, until they let you stop.

For example:

"Please Brer Fox, don't throw me in the briar patch! Please! I'm begging you, sir, please! The briars will tear me to pieces, please don't Brer Fox, please. I know I've always tricked you and I don't deserve anything but the briars, but please have mercy, sir! I begging on my knees. Please!" etc etc.