Club Lash, BBB and poly

Posted by Tanos on Mon 17 Jul 06, 12:54 AM

The three of us went to Club Lash on Friday for the first time in a few months, and then the BBB fetish market today, including a workshop about polyamory.

The Lash this month was doctors and nurses, and for once we followed the theme (white coat, scrubs, and patient's gown.) Giggler won a well-deserved prize for her matron, and it was good to see some people I've not seen for years too. This time I also didn't notice it being at all smoky (although there was some smoking) - not that Lash has ever been the smoggiest event

Today (Sunday) we set off for Birmingham and the BBB. Most of the usual stalls, and I found out a bit more about the new e-Stim remote control box (I've got an Erostek 302-R which is more flexible, but I haven't really used the additional features - apart from the audio trigger - so the e-Stim box sounds much better value for money), and Engineers of Desire who do a range of inexpensive engraved aluminium+leather collars - and they'll do your own designs for a bit extra!

The workshop was "Polyamory: Liberation for Adults or a Playground for the Damned?" and very much concentrated on doing scenes with multiple partners, rather than living 24/7 in more than a couple. I am starting to wonder if "polyamory" has so conclusively drifted to mean that within BDSM that it's best avoided as a term. And I do think that due to it's origins - a way of trying to run open relationships - that starting from polyamory and trying to "M/s-ify" it is probably the wrong route. Better to take historical models for owning multiple slaves or wives, and humanise them so we can apply them to slaves and submissives we love and value. I mean, a philosophy which takes egalitarianism and non-possessiveness as two of its starting points is going to have a problem with slaves...

After the BBB we headed off to a park and had a long talk laying on a picnic rug. In a pile. In the sun. That's what polywhatever is about for me

Edited Mon 17 Jul 06, 9:35 AM by Tanos